Any kind of excitement you had before the search began swiftly gets replaced by the realisation that everyone else is more qualified than you and you’re never ever, ever going to get a damn job. And that feeling can kind of be a downer.
But it doesn’t have to be like and there’s one simple reason why: we overestimate the competition and underestimate ourselves.
I’m willing to bet that you’ve seen an advertisement for your dream job but you didn’t even apply because it just felt so out of reach.
But let me tell you something – people aren’t as smart or as proactive as you think.
Every time you get that feeling that you’re not good enough or that everyone else is smarter than you, I can guarantee you at least 20 other potential applicants are having the exact same thought. And they don’t end up applying either.
We all have these ideas about what successful people look like and feel like and we convince ourselves that we’re not one of them.
Plus, it’s easier on the ego to use “I didn’t apply” as an excuse, instead of thinking “they picked someone else over me”.
Just do it
But you need to get out of your own head.
Stop thinking about all the reasons you won’t be the one to get the job and just apply.
I struggle with this stuff too – I know it is really hard to get out of your own head and realise that you may actually be the best person for the job. So one thing I like to do (and this could sound weird…) is to speak to myself like I’m speaking to one of my friends.
I wouldn’t try to convince my friend that they’re not good enough to apply. I’d tell them all the reasons they should give it a shot, all the reasons they should try. So why should I tell that to myself?
What do you think?
Is there something you didn’t apply for because you thought you’d never get it?
Don’t forget that comments are always welcome and appreciated – I’d LOVE to hear from you!