I know it seems quite strange to be writing a post about not having enough fun.
Of all the things we need help with, having fun definitely isn’t one of the usual suspects. In fact, most people would probably say it’s the only thing we can do well.
But no, not me.
The other day I had a really sad realisation – I don’t have much fun.
I swear I’m not completely boring though. I do a lot of things I enjoy and LOVE doing. But the fun stuff? I seriously had to wrack my brain to come up with a list of things I do just for fun and even then I could barely list a handful.
It was so sad. Besides travel, there really isn’t that much fun in my life.
And to be honest, I feel like a pretty big loser for admitting that.
I mean, who doesn’t have fun when they’re in their twenties?! I will say, I do feel slightly better that, when I had this revelation when I was at the beach with my friend on Sunday, she realised exactly the same thing.
So that made me think – maybe we’re not the only ones who aren’t having enough fun?
I feel like we put so much pressure on ourselves to already have our lives completely sorted out that it can become SO easy to take life too seriously.
We need to know what our passion is and how to get paid for it. We need to find someone that makes us happy. We feel like we need to look like a Victoria’s Secret model (at least I do) while being healthy, energetic and carefree. But we also need to be well-read and serious enough that we can get a real, grown-up job.
When I think about it like that, it’s no wonder I forget to just have some plain old fun.
So how do you have more fun?
After my friend and I had our sad but enlightening revelation we tried to figure out how we could have more fun. This is what we came up with:
1. Say yes
So we tried to think of when we’ve had the most fun and realised that it was when we were both studying overseas on our respective exchanges.
We realised that it wasn’t actually being on exchange that made it fun, it was our attitude.
We had a ‘yes’ attitude.
We said yes to almost every opportunity that came our way instead of thinking of all the reasons we shouldn’t join in (like we do at home). Being on exchange gave us the feeling that we had to make the most of our time since it would go so quickly, so we just said yes and it lead to a lot of fun.
That is at one end of the spectrum though – I think I would burn out pretty quickly if I lived the way I did when I was on exchange for more than a few months. But the good (and bad) news is that, at least at the moment, I’m a long long way away from that kind of burn out so I can definitely afford say yes to A LOT more things.
I think it’s sad that I say no to doing so many fun things.
And I don’t say no because these things wouldn’t be fun. No, I say no because I’m too tired or can’t be bothered, or because I don’t feel like I have the time or there’s something else I’d rather do, or because I don’t know the people who will be there very well. And sometimes it’s just because no one ever gets around to organising it.
So now ‘yes’ is my new default and I will be reporting back on how it goes!
2. Seek it
Not only were my friend and I saying no to all of the cool, exciting opportunities that didn’t exactly fit what we felt like doing, we weren’t seeking out any fun either (seriously, I swear I’m not completely lame…).
Unless you live in a really cool city like Paris, New York, Toronto or London, you probably complain about how there’s nothing fun to do where you live. I have definitely been known to say this about Brisbane.
But really, when we’re honest with ourselves, there are heaps of fun things to do everywhere if we (and by we I mean ‘I’) only look.
So I’m making the effort to proactively think of fun things to do, instead of waiting for someone to invite me. As sad as it may sound, I’ve starting putting a list together of fun things I really want to do:
Hiking and camping, going to fancy events and really super laid back events, playing social sport again, having ‘adventures’ (this is what I call it when you get in your car with a friend and have no real plan and just do all the random things that pop into your head) and getting organised so all of those ‘yeah we should totally do that’ things actually end up happening.
There are so many amazing adventures we can have, we just have to look.
What about you?
Are my friend and I all alone on this one or can you relate? Do you wish you had more fun?
Don’t forget that comments are always welcome and appreciated – I’d LOVE to hear what you have to say!