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Episode 499: Expecting Too Much From Your Business

In today’s episode, I want to share a mistake I see a lot of perfectionists make in business (including myself). I’ve actually been coaching on this a lot inside my program, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done.

And I want to bring it to your awareness, because if you are making this mistake, then it’s going to be hard to grow the business the way you want to. And it’s going to be hard to feel as fulfilled and satisfied as you want to, as a human being.

Tune in to hear me talk about this common mistake, so that you can begin addressing it and change your experience in your business.

Find the full episode transcript and show notes at samlaurabrown.com/episode499.

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Introduction

Hi, and welcome to another episode of The Perfectionism Project, a podcast full of perfectionism advice for entrepreneurs. My name is Sam Laura Brown. I help entrepreneurs release their perfectionism handbrake so they can get out of their own way and build a fulfilling and profitable business. I’m the founder of the Perfectionists Getting Shit Done group coaching program, which is otherwise known as PGSD. And for even more perfectionism advice to help you with your business, you can follow me on Instagram @perfectionismproject.

Sam Laura Brown – (Start of episode)

[00:00:29] Today, I want to share with you just something to be aware of. If you’re a perfectionist and you’re building a business, this is a mistake that I have made when it comes to business. I see a lot of perfectionists make this mistake. I’ve actually been coaching on this a lot inside my program, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done.

[00:00:46] And I just want to bring it to your awareness, because if you are making this mistake, then it’s going to be hard to grow the business the way you want to. And it’s going to be hard to feel as fulfilled and satisfied as you want to, as a human being. So what I’ve been coaching on is this idea of separating out what your business needs to be able to grow, to be able to thrive, to be able to be healthy, and what you need, your personal needs, your human needs, your emotional needs, your physical needs.

[00:01:17] What can happen, especially if you are someone who is working a lot, if you’re constantly thinking about your business, even if you have other things going on in your life, maybe you’re not full time in your business yet, but if you are constantly thinking about your business, then what will often happen.

[00:01:33] And this has definitely happened to me and I’m just now doing the work to unwind this, is that you will want your business to meet all of your personal needs and you’ll become very needy when it comes to your business. So this looks like for me, for example, One of my personal needs as a human is feeling self expressed and wanting to have a way to express myself, to be understood, to be able to be creative, to explore different ideas.

[00:02:04] And when my only outlet for that is the business, what it means is that I have to figure out a business model that fulfills the requirements I personally have for being self expressed. So what this looks like is, and as you will probably know, we’re at nearly episode 500, that I love doing that through the podcast, but if the only means I have for self expression is the podcast, then I will often over explain, record extra long episodes, like I’m just trying to get All of my personal needs for self expression met through this one outlet, which isn’t necessarily what the business needs.

[00:02:45] And this is also really important to think about when it comes to wanting to have an aligned business. I talk about this a lot. I believe in this deeply that you want to have a business that is aligned with your strengths, with your values, that you can go to sleep at night feeling like you are proud of what you’re doing and what you’re working on.

[00:03:03] Um, even if it’s not perfect that you are feeling like you’re actually doing something that is in alignment with you and helps to bring out the best in you. So for me as well, look, actually recording episodes for the podcast is aligned with the skills that I have. I’ve developed a lot of the skills that allow me to record episodes easily, but it is aligned with the skills that I have and the desires that I have.

[00:03:28] But at the same time, if I am wanting the podcast to meet all of my personal needs for self expression, that’s not necessarily going to be good for the business. And that puts a lot of pressure on the business, a lot of restriction on the business because we aren’t able to do things if I’m not going to be fully self expressed in them or if it will take time away from me being self expressed elsewhere.

[00:03:55] Versus what I’m shifting into is being more self expressed in my personal life and having other outlets that aren’t business related for self expression so that when it comes to the business and the podcast, yes, I can still love recording episodes. Yes, that can still be really aligned for me, but I’m going to do it in a way that makes sense for what the business needs, not just thinking about what my personal needs are.

[00:04:25] I want to give another example too. I was recently coaching a PGSE on this, that she was telling me that she was working a lot and she was finding it really hard to stick to the times that she wants to work on her business. And so I was asking her, you know, what are you doing in these extra hours? And she was saying that some of the things she was doing were community projects that she was helping people with, um, also learning things.

[00:04:48] She loves learning. And so she was learning things, uh, like taking courses and doing things like that in her work time on the weekends. And so what I said to her is, okay, but what if the values that you have for giving back to the community, the values that you have for being a learner, what if your business didn’t have to have the pressure of that?

[00:05:11] And what if you could actually just meet those needs in your personal time? And yes, there will be some overlap with the business. Of course, you’ll need to learn things. Of course, you want to give back to the community if you can during your business time, but instead of having to have a business model purely based around meeting your personal needs, you can actually zoom out, think about, okay, what does the business need right now in this season?

[00:05:35] What does it need from me? What does it need from other people? Like, what does my business need? And that may or may not overlap with your personal needs and desires around education and around giving back. So how I’ve been thinking about this too is with children. So I’m a mom. I have three little ones.

[00:05:55] And when it comes to raising a child, raising a newborn, an infant, a toddler, when you are doing that, You’re looking at what does my child need? For example, when they’re a newborn, they need to have their nappy changed. They need to have sleep. They need to have some source of food. There’s a few basic things they need.

[00:06:18] And it’s such a good example for me, because when I think about particularly the newborn period, when they have a lot of needs and a lot of the time the needs that they have don’t align with what I feel like doing in the moment. Do I feel like changing a nappy for the eighth time today or with the twins for the 16th time today?

[00:06:37] Not really. Do I feel like feeding them again? Not really. Do I feel like doing all the little things required to help them thrive? Not really, but ultimately bigger picture. A very important value to me is being a mom, taking care of my children, being there for them. So I’m willing to do things that my children need that aren’t necessarily things that I feel like doing in the moment.

[00:07:02] And I am then meeting my own personal needs that I have in my personal time. I’m not expecting my children to have to be acting in a way that meets all my needs. And a toddler is a great example of this, that if I’m expecting. that my toddler, or my two toddlers, my twins are nearly two years old, if I’m expecting that my toddlers are needing to meet every emotional need that I have, that means I have to put a lot of pressure on them to always behave perfectly so that I never get upset, so that I’m never the coming up with any emotions that I have to work through so that I don’t have to be more emotionally regulated and learn those skills.

[00:07:46] If I’m expecting and putting pressure on them to be a certain way so that all of my needs are met, then their needs aren’t going to get met because they need to test the boundaries. They need to express themselves by crying at inconvenient times or times when I’m very tired. That is part of what they need to thrive as a little human.

[00:08:09] But if I’m trying to find or think about like, how can I have exactly what they need, line up with exactly what I need, and I get everything that I personally need from them. It’s a lot of pressure. It’s a lot of dependency. It’s a lot of neediness. It’s not a healthy relationship, even with romantic relationships.

[00:08:28] If you look at, if you only had one relationship in your life where you are wanting to get all of your emotional needs met, all of your needs for intimacy and connection met, All of the needs that you have as a human, it’s not going to be a healthy relationship. It’s going to be very codependent and you’re not going to be actually able to allow that person to be who they are and to get what they need because everything is constructed around you getting what you need and having them have to be a certain way so you can get what you need.

[00:09:01] So instead, what most of us do is is we’ll have a romantic relationship. Then we will have friendships. Then we will have colleagues. Then we will have alone time. Then we will have a coach. Like we will have all these different ways that we get our needs met. We will exercise. We will do all sorts of different things to meet our personal needs rather than expecting just one single person to do that.

[00:09:25] So when it comes back to business, If you are spending most of your time thinking about your business, working on your business, trying to get your business to where you want it to be, then essentially what is happening is that relationship is becoming the main relationship in your life. Even if it’s not in terms of time spent, if it’s mental energy, it is where then if you aren’t getting your personal needs met elsewhere, like if you think about if you only ever hung out with one person, You would end up just expecting so much more of them because you would want them to meet all the needs you have for all kinds of different relationships instead of getting it from friends and colleagues in all different places.

[00:10:07] You would put a lot of pressure on that one relationship and it probably wouldn’t work out very well. It probably wouldn’t be healthy. So if when it comes to your business, That is your main relationship. Then what is going to happen is you’re going to have to have the business be away so that you can get all of your needs for self expression.

[00:10:29] feeling successful and accomplished, feeling productive, learning, growing, and you will end up needing to have your business be perfect or feeling like it needs to be perfectly aligned and you should feel like doing everything that needs to get done. So when it comes to how this is showing up for me, as I mentioned with self expression, And just feeling like my business, I wasn’t starting it to create freedom in terms of time or location, though.

[00:10:58] I love both of those things. I love having that. But for me, I really wanted to feel free to be myself. And that really spurred me to create my blog initially, and then to grow and evolve with that, even though it was really scary to do that. And the perfectionism made it really, really hard in the beginning to do that.

[00:11:16] And I had to overcome that. But now, especially as I have matured a lot more as a business owner through wins, through a lot of mistakes and learnings and lessons, that now I’m in a place where I can really see how thinking of my business as its own entity and thinking about, okay, what does my business need really helps me to actually support it to grow and ends up being much more aligned than if I’m thinking about, okay, what do I need and how can I get what I need from the business.

[00:11:48] Because again, that means the business can really only look a certain way and is going to not actually get everything it needs the same way if it was a child. And I’m thinking about, okay, how can I get what I need from this relationship with my child? And I’m not thinking at all about what the child needs, then I’m not going to be actually taking care of them.

[00:12:07] And I want to be taking care of my business, especially when it is If it’s a newborn, a newborn business, you have an infant business, a toddler business. I would say I’m still ultimately in the early stages of business. And so I want to be taking care of the business and giving it what it needs, even if I don’t feel like doing that in the moment, because ultimately Big picture what I value and what I am aligned with is taking care of my business and being there for my business and essentially like being the mom of my business being the mama bear and giving the business what it needs even if that’s uncomfortable and I know for myself as a mom there are so many times where giving My child, what they need has been uncomfortable for me emotionally speaking up for them, making strangers feel uncomfortable by standing up for my children or saying things that feel awkward to say, but need to be said.

[00:13:05] But I have to be willing, To ha like to do those things, to be aligned ultimately with the values that I have of being there for my children and standing up for them and speaking out, even though I never feel like doing it in the moment, even though that’s something I’m still learning and developing. So when it comes to how I’m thinking about the business and what I want you to be thinking about with your business, whether you are at.

[00:13:28] The early stages of your business, whether you have been in business for quite a few years, wherever you’re at, I don’t think it’s ever too early to be thinking about this and asking yourself this question, what does my business need in this season? What does my business need in this season? And what does my business not need in this season?

[00:13:52] Because what happens as well as coaching another PGSDer on this, and we were actually working on this, we’ve been doing our momentum projects inside PGSD. And when we were doing that, one thing that we looked at was was this question, what does your business need? And one of the PGSDers was saying she had this long list of like all these shoulds and all these ideas and dreams that she has.

[00:14:14] And what I brought her back to was, okay, but what does it need in this season? Knowing that if you’re trying to do everything, You will actually get nothing done. Like you have to prioritize it. And the example I gave, so for, um, with having children, because it’s such a good example of this, because they have needs that you don’t feel like meeting, but ultimately it’s aligned with your values to meet them, that I was like, okay, if you have a six month old child and you want to have a school bag for them, but they’re not going to school, they don’t need that until they’re five years old.

[00:14:49] So that isn’t something they need in this season. Even though that might be something that’s like, Oh, but I’d love to go and pick out a school bag for them. It’s like, but what actually do they need? They need food. They need shelter. They need some playtime. Like they need other things, not the school bag.

[00:15:07] And so in the future, Okay, we’ll get them a school bag when that is actually something they need in this season. But instead of trying to get ahead of ourselves and offer just as a distraction because we’re like, Oh, well, I’d love to do this thing in the future. Because when we get to think about the future, we don’t actually have to be doing anything.

[00:15:23] And then for, we don’t have to actually be failing at anything and seeing that we’re not good at things. So we love thinking about that as perfectionists. And what we’re going to bring it back to is, okay, what does my business need in this season? In this season that I’m in right now, and then what do I personally need in this season?

[00:15:43] And how can I get that? Do I need to hire a life coach? Are there some emotions that I need to process that have been seeping into the business? some things that I haven’t dealt with or just experiences that I just need to cry about once, but I actually just need to let myself cry. So looking at like, what else do I need?

[00:16:01] Do I need more friendship? Do I need more time with other people? Like, what do I personally need and what can I do to better meet my personal needs in my personal time so that I don’t have to overwork to get all of my needs met. I have ways to feel successful. that aren’t just my business. So for example, for me, we have a little veggie garden that we planted.

[00:16:26] It was a birthday present for me earlier in the year. And I kind of ended up planting a few things that we don’t even eat and they hadn’t been grown. I just kind of neglected. I was like, I really love having a veggie garden. I want to learn how to do that. I don’t know a lot about it. And so it’s really just like we made a small one so that I was like, I don’t want a massive veggie garden.

[00:16:47] And then to try and have to learn things at this massive scale, I’d rather have a small veggie garden, learn how to do that, and then have a bigger one. So anyway, having, and it’s so funny, like the things that can make you feel successful, but like having this veggie garden and a way to feel successful that isn’t related to the business and also isn’t just related to my kids and my husband, like it’s not dependent on another person, but when it comes to this veggie garden, um, I planted a lot of cause lettuce cause we eat that a lot and I planted some seeds and they sprouted And there’s just this tiny little These tiny little leaves that have come up and that has been so satisfying and I feel so successful Even though it was very basic, but I feel so successful in that and just having these other ways In my personal life to feel successful Take some of the pressure off my business Because it doesn’t have to meet the personal need that I have You To feel successful.

[00:17:48] I’m also getting that elsewhere. So there’s more room for failure in the business. There’s more room for mistakes, which makes me freer to actually show up and go all in and give it my best. If we put all the pressure on the business and that’s the only way we can possibly feel successful, then if you’re a perfectionist, you are going to find it way harder to show up.

[00:18:08] You’ll procrastinate more, you’ll overthink more, you will burn yourself out because you’ll be trying to get it right so that you can be successful, not wanting to make mistakes, not wanting to fail. But instead, if you have these other ways in your life that you are meeting your personal needs, like the need to feel successful, for example, The need to feel connected to others.

[00:18:28] So instead of having to constantly be on social media and scrolling to try and meet your connection needs, you can actually call a friend or you can do, even if it’s just like listening to a podcast versus scrolling and listening to a podcast that isn’t just a business podcast is so powerful. Like when I realized almost all of my podcasts that I listened to a business podcast or personal development related.

[00:18:53] And for me, I’m in the field of personal development. So that’s still business related for me to be listening to something that’s about my personal life, but it’s personal development related. So all my self coaching was around the business. And it just meant that because the personal life side of my life has been underdeveloped.

[00:19:13] Not that I don’t have a personal life that I love. I definitely do, but I just haven’t been giving it the same attention Emotionally that I have been giving the business and so now I’m kind of right sizing that And it’s made such a difference in how I can show up for the business in the energy that I have for the business because I actually feel as well like if I have something going on in my personal life or in the business and I need to process it.

[00:19:40] I have the time and space to do that. I can just do that with my journal, just like writing about it and letting myself cry about it and doing that when I’m alone, if that’s what feels most comfortable. Like I actually have time and space to do that so I don’t have to have everything go perfectly in the business because when I felt like I didn’t actually have the time.

[00:19:57] to really be with any feelings or process them, then everything has to be done right in the business so that I don’t have any bad feelings to process. But when I actually have created time and space in my personal life and being more open in my relationships and with my friends, for example, and just like asking for help more, sharing more of my struggles, and actually talking about it in a connected, vulnerable way, That has then again, taking pressure off the business to have to be meeting my needs when it comes to the emotional side and like meeting my need to not have to have any emotions to process.

[00:20:35] I actually now can have that space in my personal life. So I’m just sharing a list to hopefully have you reflect on whether this is something going on for you, whether you are trying to. Particularly, I think like needs for self expression needs for education and learning needs for Even like having intimacy, um, not necessarily in terms of physical intimacy, but like feeling Connected again with others just feeling connected with yourself If your business is the only time that you feel connected with yourself This might be something that is going on for you If you’re the kind of person you’re like, well, I just love working and I love working too You But the more I have found other ways to connect with myself rather than just through working, I have then been able to create a healthier relationship with my business.

[00:21:25] And I have seen the benefits of that in my business in terms of revenue, in terms of actually being able to mentally switch off much more easily. And so I really can’t see any downside to getting your needs met in your personal life. And then thinking what does my business need right now in this season?

[00:21:46] And that’s a question you’ll need to regularly ask yourself. So whether that’s quarterly in pgsd We do a quarterly review together whether that’s in your quarterly review that you are asking yourself that question For the next quarter. What does my business need right now in this season? What does my business not need right now and then there might be some emotional work you need to do.

[00:22:06] There might be some perfectionism you need to overcome to be able to fulfill that. Rather than us saying, okay, here’s what I need personally. Here’s what feels like aligned for me, for example. And I need to have a business model that fits that. And then the business is getting neglected. And then you aren’t taking care of your baby.

[00:22:28] And if you are the kind of person that wants to take care of others, especially Thinking about your business in that way as something to be cared for and it has needs you will need to meet If you want it to be healthy that you won’t feel like meeting but you’re still going to meet them I’ve just found that so powerful.

[00:22:43] So for me When I have asked myself that question Of what does the business need in the moment? I’m just actually getting I had on my whiteboard And then I just rubbed it off to write down some podcast episode ideas So when I looked at for me what the business needs in this season. The main thing that came up for me was in terms of the finances, knowing my numbers and really just having a clear financial plan, really in terms of having a goal for my cash reserves.

[00:23:15] Um knowing the numbers in terms of as well like exactly um, not just like how much cash has been collected But really being able to project that out Um going through the expenses which i’ve done quite a bit of that recently and I cut out so many things That weren’t getting used or didn’t need to be used and that was amazing But there’s still a few more that I need to go through just like things like that That do I feel like doing that?

[00:23:38] Not really. And does my brain just want to be like, Oh, but we need to be creating content and just focusing on the things it’s more familiar with. But actually big picture, my business needs certain things in the finance department. Certain things to be happening, certain numbers, awareness. And I’m at a point where that isn’t like, okay, it’s, that’s a nice to have, that is a need.

[00:24:03] And so that has been one of the biggest things that came up for me. The other thing was lead generation. So actually having new people come into my world, into my audience. And I realized that a lot of the Content that I create just gets seen by the same people again and again, which is amazing. Don’t get me wrong.

[00:24:24] That’s amazing. If you’re a long time listener, I love that. But also when I’ve looked at this is a realization that I had last year and then I’ve combined it with another realization to make it even more powerful because last year I was like, Hey, I need to have more leads, more people in my world. And that’s, that’s kind of like the solution and that was true, but also I didn’t have really an awareness over what had people go from being in my world to becoming a client and working with me inside PGSD.

[00:24:55] Like I had, a leaky bucket, so to speak. So I could have more people come into it, but I didn’t really understand what was going on in the way that I do now. And so now it’s still looking at having more people come into my world. Um, but instead of focusing on, I just need to be creating content and just noticing how recently, instead of batch creating things together, which is when I do best and also gives me time and space to work on other things, especially as I work a three day work week, that it suits some people to create content, like one podcast episode per week.

[00:25:27] My favorite is always sitting down recording five and then not having to record any for a few weeks and then just recording them when I feel like it and recording a big batch together. So in terms of the time spent in marketing, instead of just thinking about content creation, Actually shifting to thinking about lead generation and having new people come into my world, which obviously at some point I was thinking about that a lot, because I do have a lot of people in my world, but I hadn’t been thinking about it as much.

[00:25:57] And I had shifted to just thinking about creating content rather than having new people come in. So that’s another thing as well that I have been looking at when it comes to like what the business needs But yes, I can get better and better at launching. I can get better at Creating content I can get better at sales and all those things are skills that I’m working on But also and this is kind of how I was thinking about it Imagine there’s a big stadium of people.

[00:26:25] So on my email list, I have about 10, 000 people and there are, there’s a stadium, 10, 000 people in the seats. And then over time, of course, because every email I send gets unsubscribes, that’s how it works. So over time, more and more people are leaving the stadium, but new people aren’t coming in. A few are trickling in, but people aren’t getting replaced.

[00:26:45] And eventually over time, I’m just talking to a smaller and a smaller and a smaller audience. And so what I’ve looked at is like, Oh, actually like the message I’m sharing very important. Could it be improved in some ways? I’m sure. But also I just need to get out in front of more people. And it kind of just, I think I haven’t been thinking about it because When it comes to looking at where I’m most comfortable in the business, again, coming back to my personal needs versus the business needs, especially during a time.

[00:27:18] So I had the twins at the beginning of last year. And at the time they were born, I had a 19 month old daughter, Lydia. So I was in a personal time where I was feeling like I was so uncomfortable in my personal life that I had the personal need for comfort anywhere else that I could get it. And so it meant in terms of the business that I didn’t like my desire to do anything courageous, putting myself out there.

[00:27:43] Like I was still showing up. I felt like I worked so hard, especially towards the end of last year. in my brain mainly, just like trying to get things where I wanted them to be. But I wasn’t wanting to learn new things necessarily, because I was so uncomfortable in my personal life just going through the transition of being a mom of one to a mom of three.

[00:28:05] And so I had, The business trying to meet my personal need of comfort and therefore doing things that I’m familiar with and just really not thinking about what the business needs. At the same time it’s like on the surface I would say a lot of thinking about like how can I grow the business and how can I get the business to where I want it to be but I was still always thinking about that ultimately in the sense of the business meeting my needs because I want it to be where I want it to be so I can feel successful versus okay if I think about the business.

[00:28:38] As its own entity, what does the business need in this season? And how can I get the business what it needs and what personal life support might I need To be able to get the business what it needs and whether that is having Whether it’s coaching or like having more rest or having more help or whatever that looks like So I can actually get the business what it needs.

[00:29:03] I think that is It’s a realization that I’m having and have really been having over the last few weeks of like, oh, I can see how When the business needs to meet all of my personal needs It is really hard for the business to get its needs met And I think if you have a business where ultimately one day you want to exit you want to sell that business to someone else It might come more naturally to think about like the business as a separate entity.

[00:29:27] But if you have a business where it’s a lifestyle business and it is a business potentially that is a way of monetizing something that you and making a living from something that you would otherwise be doing, say for example, if you’re an artist or you’re a that thinking about what the business needs probably isn’t going to come naturally because you’re more so thinking about, okay, here’s what I need as an artist.

[00:29:53] Here’s what I need in terms of my income. Here’s what I need in terms of feeling creatively expressed. And here are my needs for being liked and for being loved. And then how can I have the business meet that? So I just want to invite you to shift into thinking about what does a business need in this season.

[00:30:10] What does the business not need in this season? You can have that on a list future. You can do that. But the needle movers are, what does the business need in this season? And then your personal life needle movers are, what personal support do I need in my personal life? How can I better meet my personal needs in my personal life?

[00:30:31] What are the personal needs that I’ve been trying to meet from the business and what changes do I need to make, whether that’s starting something or stopping something in my personal life so that I can get my personal needs by myself. Ultimately, that’s the best place to get our personal needs met from us being in charge of that.

[00:30:54] Not having to have your partner act a different way, your kids act a different way, but being able to do that yourself. And then, okay, how can I get the business what it needs? And I just want to finish up by saying that especially if you’re a perfectionist, and I know that’s who I’m talking to with this episode, that it can come up like, Oh, I don’t know what it needs.

[00:31:14] What like and trying to find this perfect thing that the business needs this is where you need to understand No one knows what the fuck they’re doing When it comes to business We’re all just figuring it out. We’re all just coming up with hypotheses and testing them. So what you want to do is just say, this is what I think the business needs in this season.

[00:31:36] The same way it’s so, it’s so analogous to kids. Like when you have a newborn, you’re like, I literally, I don’t know, but I’m going to change the nappy and see if that helps. I’m going to feed you and see if that helps. Then I’m going to like try and do, I’ll take you outside and look at some trees and see if that helps.

[00:31:51] Like you’re just constantly having these theories. Of, I think this is what the baby needs, and then testing those theories and then learning from the testing versus, oh, my baby’s crying. Let me go and read a book. It’s like, well, actually I will try things and then when they’re calm and they have their needs met, then I will go and and get the help from somewhere else or to get their needs met.

[00:32:14] In the moment, it’s like actually what the baby needs is for me to ask for help because I’m not able to meet its needs right now. The same thing is for business. Having a business coach is so powerful. Having a business coach, not having to figure out everything yourself in the moment. But my point is you need to be willing to just say, I’m not 100 percent sure what the business needs, but this is my best theory.

[00:32:38] Or if you’re in PGSD, bring this to a coaching call. I’ll definitely help you with this, but this is my best theory and I’m going to test it and I’m going to see if this is what the business needs. So you can do in PGSD, the momentum project to help with that power planning, all of everything inside PGSD is designed to support you with this.

[00:33:00] So I hope this has been helpful to reflect on and to just look at how can you get the business, what it needs, and how can you better meet your personal needs? in your personal life. So you can get your personal needs met and then there’s less pressure on the business and then it’s easier to show up.

[00:33:17] It’s easier to go all in because you don’t have the pressure of having to get everything right. The business doesn’t have the pressure of having to be perfect, having to only succeed because there will be ups and downs. And if your business is meeting or needs to meet all of your personal needs, and I’ve learned this the hard way, having your business go through a period Of mistakes of failure of things not working becomes very painful personally, because if the personal need for success isn’t getting met through the business or validation, it’s not getting met at all.

[00:33:52] So if you can get that need met in your personal life, it’s so much easier to be resilient, to keep showing up, to keep putting one foot in front of the other and to ultimately figure it out. So with that said, I hope you’re having a beautiful day and I will talk to you in the next episode.

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Author: Sam Brown