You know that morning routine I preached about in this post? The one I absolutely loved that makes me feel so productive and energetic and ready for the day?
I don’t do it any more.
I don’t do it any more because I fell out of the habit. I loved that morning routine and I did it religiously for at least 3 months solid. And it was easy to keep doing – I had gotten into the habit:
Wake up. Wash my face. Fill up my water bottle. Do a little exercise (usually Blogilates-related, so good!). Write in The 5 Minute Journal. Read 10 pages of a book. Meditate for 15 minutes. Finish off my water. Get dressed for the day. Have breakfast.
It was definitely an overly elaborate morning routine, but it worked for me. I was in a groove and I was killing it. I loved this morning routine, and yet I stopped doing it.
I’ve found myself snoozing my alarm. I haven’t ‘had time‘ to do everything I want to in the morning. I am rushed. I feel unproductive. And worse still, I feel like I don’t know how to get out of the slump and back into my old routine.
Why am I telling you this?
Why would I admit that my ‘foolproof’ morning routine has come completely undone?
Because (a) this stuff happens and (b) it’s ok.
I’ve been in a period of transition for the last few months and I’ve been trying to keep everything the same.
All of this change (finishing uni, changing jobs, starting full-time work) has left me feeling like I’m just madly flailing around in all of the other areas of my life, not exactly sure what I’m meant to be doing or how all the new components fit together.
And this is all ok.
Why we shouldn’t feel guilty
I think we can be so harsh on ourselves, especially when we compare our present-day self with our past-self (which I think can sometimes be even more destructive than comparing ourselves to others).
For the first couple of months after I fell out of my routine I felt so guilty. Why couldn’t I keep my routine up? And why the hell did I have to preach about it being so easy to do on my blog?! The guilt trip I gave myself was relentless.
But falling out of a habit is ok. It happens.
I’ve finally started to cut myself some slack. I don’t have to be completely consistent with what I’ve been doing in the past. Change is going to happen and things are going to get shaken up and that can’t be helped. We all go through different periods in life and sometimes (especially when we’re in a period of transition) things are going to feel messy. And I hate things feeling messy, but it’s ok that they do.
Things won’t always go as planned. There will be change. And that’s all ok.
I still recommend that morning routine 100%, but it doesn’t work for me right now. I’m still doing bits and pieces of it (currently – wake up, wash face, blogilates abs and then a little exercise) but I haven’t got a set routine like I used to (I’m seriously working on not snoozing my alarm anymore). I’m working on figuring out a morning routine that fits my new schedule and that I love, and that takes a little time.
Things aren’t always as they appear
I’m also telling you this because it’s easy to look at insta or a blog and think that someone has the ‘perfect’ life. That they’re motivated and disciplined all the time. That they never make mistakes. That they know exactly what they’re doing.
But that isn’t the case. And I know you’ve heard that before, but I seriously think it can’t be said enough times (even though I know this is the case I still find myself believing that everyone on insta has a perfect, flawless life). I’m always completely shocked when someone tells me my life must be ‘perfect’ because it really, really isn’t.
What I’ve learned
So what have I learned from all this?
To stop fighting the messiness. It’s seriously hard to come to terms with the fact that everything in our ‘perfect’ little plan isn’t going to work out the way we’d thought, and it’s even harder if you’re a perfectionist.
Fighting the messiness only leaves me feeling overwhelmed and believing that I need to ‘figure it all out’. And this makes me feel like I have absolutely no clue what I’m doing, which makes me feel pressured to be making big, important decisions, which makes me want to not make any kind of decision.
But embracing the messiness and uncertainly allows me to grow and to improve because I don’t feel so pressured. Plus I can actually take advantage of unexpected opportunities and be open to different things that come up.
This is by no means easy to do, but I think working with the uncertainty (instead of trying to fight it) is the only way to get through that existential crisis so many of us seem to be faced with.
What do you think?
Do you compare yourself with your past self (and beat yourself up about not being as ‘good’ as you used to be)? Have you fallen out of a habit when you’ve got new things going on in your life?
Don’t forget that comments are always appreciated – I’d LOVE to hear your thoughts on this!