Do you have a dream? And if you do, is it big?
I’m talking about the kind of dream that scares the absolute shit out of you.
The kind of dream that seems outside the realms of possibility and probability and everything in between. That makes you feel like an idiot for thinking, even for just one second, that it could somehow actually happen. That other people say will never happen.
A new year calls all sorts of things into question: Is what you’re working towards what you really want? And if not, why are you still working towards it?
Honestly, I really struggle to answer both of these questions.
I am full of uncertainty and full of fear. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of what others will think, fear of picking the wrong thing, fear of picking the right thing and not being good at it…. I could go on. It’s something I’m working really hard on changing, but at the moment, those fears are still there.
And I think it’s great to set an intention or goals or whatever you like to call them at the beginning of a new year, but in my experience we usually forget about the big picture.
We focus on doing something better instead of doing something different. We want to eat healthier food, exercise more, procrastinate less. We try to work on the same things year after year hoping that we’ll finally have a breakthrough. We don’t consider aiming for something completely different, something so much bigger:
What’s your dream?
Getting your dream job (the one that feels beyond impossible to get).
Starting your own company (the one that everyone ‘warns’ you is going to fail).
Being an artist, a writer, a photographer, a videographer.
Going back to study. Stopping study.
Making an impact.
It’s confronting – I know. It brings up the question of whether we are enough. Talented enough. Smart enough. Important enough. Pretty enough.
Getting past the fear and the naysayers
It calls into question everything we’ve done in the past. People like consistency and how consistent we are with your previous actions will constantly be called into question by others.
‘Why are you studying law if you don’t want to be a lawyer’ is a question I get all the time. I want something different now than I did 4 years ago, and you might want something different too. It’s ok to be inconsistent.
So why not aim for something bigger than you ever have before? Why not put your big dream on the table?
So think about it: is what you’re working towards what you really want? And if not, why are you still working towards it?
Are you focused on doing things better, or doing things differently?
What do you think?
Don’t forget that comments are always welcome and very much appreciated – I’d LOVE to know what you think?