A few weeks ago I turned 24 and I really wasn’t excited about it.
I’m getting older.
I think that, like me, a lot of people have decided on an age that they believe to be their ‘prime’, their best, their pinnacle. It could be 18, 21, 25, 30 – whatever. But whatever it is, it’s the age we idealise and glamorise. It’s the age we find ourselves wishing we still were.
For me that age is 21.
Until I turned 21 I was so excited about birthdays. The world felt full of hope and opportunity – that there was still plenty of time to fulfil my potential and achieve all of the amazing things I dreamed of achieving.
It felt like time was on my side.
And then I turned 22. I hadn’t become everything I thought I’d be. I didn’t have it all together. I wasn’t working in my dream job (or have any clue what my dream job was). And every year past my ‘prime’ feels like another year of missed opportunities and unfulfilled potential. Another year of things I didn’t do and habits I didn’t stick to.
Now I know this all sounds a bit outrageous – feeling old at 24 shouldn’t really be a thing. And I honestly feel a bit stupid for even writing about it, but I know I’m not alone.
Plus this whole thing is really kind of funny – I was the one who decided that 21 should be my ‘prime’. But really it’s not that surprising. We are constantly told that younger is better.
Women (and men) lie about their age. It’s ‘rude’ to ask someone how old they are. There are a million and one articles (exactly) on how to look younger, feel younger, act younger, talk younger and walk younger (ok maybe not that last one). People talk about old age like it’s some kind of plague they’re desperately trying to fight off. There are aisles and aisles of products that will ‘fix’ you. And there’s botox.
Young is cool. Old is boring.
But why isn’t old better? It’s a privilege to grow old, a privilege that so many are not afforded. Getting older is inevitable and is actually the ideal – if you’re not getting older you’re dead (or you’re Dumbledore or something).
Plus it takes years of consistent and persistent effort to fulfil your potential, which means getting older in the process. That whole ‘overnight success’ thing that the media loves to talk about really isn’t an actual thing.
I think I focus so much energy on wishing I was younger because I’m chasing the feeling that time is on my side. But really, it still is. And it still is for you too.
No matter what your age – you haven’t peaked. You’re not over the hill. You don’t have to spend the rest of your life reminiscing about life at 18, 21, 25, 30 – whatever.
It’s scary to feel that sense of urgency that comes with realising that our time is not limitless, but it’s also a great motivator. So don’t making waiting a habit.
Live where you are.
What do you think?
Do you ever feel like you’re too old (even though you’re still young!)? Have you had some sort of quarter-life crisis?
Don’t forget that comments are always welcome and appreciated – I’d LOVE to hear what you think!
P.S. If you’re a procrastinator and you struggle to stay motivated, keep reading to learn about my FREE Perfectionist Power-Ups. They’re motivational boosts sent straight to your inbox and you won’t find them anywhere else:
A motivational power-up ✨
If you came here for inspiration, you’ve found this blog post at the best possible time! I just want to quickly share something that’s going to give you the motivational power-up you deserve.
Lately I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about what else I can do to help get out of your own way in your business.
In addition to leading my group coaching program for perfectionists, Perfectionists Getting Shit Done, I publish a new episode each week on my podcast The Perfectionism Project and have recently started posting regularly on instagram again (I’m now @perfectionismproject).
But I’ve felt like there’s still more I could do to help you…
I’ve always found it easiest to get out of my own way when I read or listen to something every day that gives me a boost of motivation.
Over the years I’ve gotten these motivational boosts from business and self-help podcasts, Youtube videos, inspiring quotes etc. And I wouldn’t be where I am today if I didn’t have those things there to cheer me on.
But sometimes, these things can lead us down a bit of a rabbit hole when all we need is a small piece of motivation to help us kick start our day – without all the distractions…
That’s why I’ve decided to start sending a short “Perfectionist Power-Up ✨” straight to your inbox every weekday.
These are little boosts of motivation, designed for perfectionists who are building businesses, that you’ll receive from me from Monday to Friday each week.
And they won’t be the same as my Instagram posts…
I’ll be emailing you short motivational notes and reminders that you won’t be able to find anywhere else
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